Moving abroad should be the most exciting and happiest time of your life, if only it wasn’t for this one difficult and scary task: You’ll have to tell your loved ones that you’re leaving.
In this article I’m going to share some tips and ideas on how to tell your family and friends that you are moving abroad.
Some of your loved ones have probably been involved in your preparations and decision making, but others are completely in the dark and might be shocked about your news.
Here are a few tips on how to get the sharing of your new adventure done smoothly.
Tell your family and closest friends first
In order to not cause any hurt feelings, because some people may hear about your move from others, make sure to tell your closest family and friends first. Be prepared for mixed reactions. Hopefully most of them will be happy for you, but some might also be confused or even shocked about your decision. In this case, give them some time. Tell them how excited you are about your new life abroad and about all the awesome opportunities you’ll have over there. Show them photos or videos of your future hometown. That way they will hopefully understand your decision a little better.
Tell your other friends
If you have a bigger circle of friends, you should tell them next. A good idea is to invite them over for a fun evening at your place. That way you’ll have all of them together and won’t need to tell everyone separately.
Be prepared to feel guilty
If you have people around you who don’t want you to leave, you might feel guilt after breaking the news to them. It can be heartbreaking when your grandma starts talking about how she might not see you again. And this might be true, but you can’t live your life up to the expectations of other people. Of course it’s sad to leave, but you have this awesome opportunity and you should take it if your heart is fully into it and you feel like this is the right decision for you.
Tell people that you will come visit
If you plan on visiting your home country again soon, you should let everyone know. This way they will have something to look forward to and they know that you are not completely out of their world.
Have people visit you
Another good thing to make your loved ones feel better is to have them plan a visit to your new home. Especially parents seem to be worried about where their child is going to live. Once they have seen and experienced your new hometown, they will hopefully feel calmer and less worried.
Explain Skype or FaceTime to older relatives
In my grandparents generation it was normal to write letters to each other. They may not know about the technical possibilities we have to stay in contact today. Explain Skype or FaceTime to them, so they get a chance to see you every once in a while. My grandparents always get excited when we Skype for birthdays or holidays and it is so good to see them doing well.
Of course we have no control about the reactions of our loved ones and we hate to see them hurt when we break the news. Chances are that they already know how much you love to travel. After the initial shock they will hopefully be happy for you and maybe even excited that they now have a great reason to visit the country you are moving to.
In my case most of my family and friends were very supportive, but they were also afraid that I would stay in the US and not come back home. I think the scariest thing for your loved ones is that if you don’t have a set time frame, they won’t be sure where you will end up spending your future.
What were the reactions of your loved ones when you told them that you’re moving abroad? Do you have any additional tips on how to deal with it? I’m looking forward to read about it in the comments below.